Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Our first full day as a family


Yesterday was our first full day with our new daughter. That is the last time I will write "our new daughter." Even though her name is now officially Katelyn (Katie) we cannot yet refer to her as that yet. Her foster family nicknamed her "Bin Bin." We are choosing to keep this nickname at least for the time being since she speaks no English so "Katie would get no response. Mostly we are keeping it because it is so darn cute and fits her perfect.
About our day; we started off the day very well. Bin Bin woke up in seemingly good spirits. She is potty trained for the most part. This part amazes us. She goes potty when we want her to. In China, they train these little kids to go on demand. They hold them over the pot and then whistle in their ear which is rewarded with a little tinkle sound. It works! She is very cooperative with getting dressed and going places. She was obviously well cared for and taught discipline by her foster mother. We were told that the foster mother called the orphanage in the morning because she was so worried about how Bin Bin was doing. After getting dressed and fed, we took a short bus ride back to the Welfare hotel to complete the Chinese adoption paperwork with the welfare department. While there, we were able to talk to Bin Bin's caretaker with her orphanage who has know her since she was found in May of 2008. Bin Bin lit up when she saw her. (see picture) From this meeting, we gathered invaluable background information that we can share with Bin Bin when she is older and curious about her history. Two items that we were not expecting but are grateful to have are; a photo album chronicling her life at Yulin First Social Institute and the clothes and blanket she was found wrapped in when they discovered her alone in the marketplace. We will cherish and preserve these two items for her to have when she is an adult. After the Welfare hotel we took another short bus ride to the notary office. When we left there to go back to the hotel, we held in our laps our officially adopted child. The last step is to get her a Visa through US immigrations then we can bring her home. That process will occur next week in Goungzho. Back at the hotel, we ate some lunch and just hung out with Bin Bin for a couple of hours. At about 3 pm, the bus came back and we took another short ride to Walmart. Yes, I said Walmart. I wanted to go, not necessarily to shop, but to see firsthand what a Chinese Walmart was like. The one in Nanning is in an indoor shopping mall and is three stories tall. It pretty much had anything that you would want. It was extremely busy as we have found most places in China. We were told that one of Bin Bin's favorite activities was to go to the supermarket with her foster mom. At the end of the trip we think that she must have seen something or someone that reminded her of her foster mom because she became withdrawn and started pushing us away. We could tell she was grieving the separation from her foster family, but this was the first time she physically shut us out. We let her have her moment and she came back around. The rest of the day we spent hanging out at the hotel getting to know each other better. However, Bin Bin seemed sad all evening. I think she is tired of playing with us and wants to go to the comfort and security of her own home. We are so grateful to the foster family for loving and caring for her so well yet it breaks our hearts to see this little girl so obviously sad to be away her foster Mamma and Babba. In time we know she will feel the same way about us. We just need to let her work it all out.

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

I know she'll realize how much you guys love and care for her in a short amount of time. That's what she loved about her foster mother, and once she figures out that's all you've got for her she won't ever forget it. Chin up!

<3 em

Unknown said...

we're here loving and supporting you on this emotional rollercoaster. I totally agree with the comments made my the previous well-wisher! Aunt Cathy

Anonymous said...

Hey Kari and Tony - It was so great talking with you last night. I love these pictures of our niece! Hearing about your adventure brings back so many wonderful, wonderful memories that Keith and I continue to cherish.

Binbin is just such a little sweatheart. I think the next few days will undoubtedly include many ups and downs as she gets accustomed to her new life and family which is of course all completely normal and part of the transition. Your love and support will help immensely.

Enjoy the rest of your time in Nanning and know that we are looking forward to hearing more updates. Love to you all and please give Binbin some extra hugs and kisses from her WI relatives - Kris

Anonymous said...

Kari - so happy for you and Tony. Great to see the pictures. How precious! Enjoy your time and the beginning of this wonderful adventure. Your blogs will make great keepsakes as well...for her to read as an adult too.

Sally said...

Sounds like you all are taking things in stride. You'll reap the rewards for a lifetime to come and it will make the long, bumpy road getting here worth it.

PS - Can adorable Bin Bin teach her cousin Landon the whistle trick?? ;)

Pam J said...

What an overwhelming emotional time for all of you! It's obvious the love you have for each other and now for BinBin will be your strong anchor. Her pictures are adorable. Thinking good thoughts for you all. pam j

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Anonymous said...

Oh,Kari - this is so exciting - I know you will have good days and not so good days (ALL parents do!) but your daughter is a lovely little girls and she is so lucky to have you!

Anonymous said...

How wonderful it was to see a picture of your new daughter and know a little about her. I'm sure you feel blest and proud! We look forward to more info about her and your life together! Helen & Will

Anja said...

Hi!

What a lovely pictures! I recognized the lady on the picture with BinBin on her arm. Amber had no feelings with her, she didn't respond at all to that lady so we know that wasn't her caretaker at all. We also got a photobook and in that pictures there is a complete different woman but we don't know if it is her foster mom.

Do you know there is a very lovely park just around the corner of your hotel in Nanning?! We had a few relaxing afternoons over there. It is soooo beautiful! Enjoy!

Love, Anja
The Netherlands

Anonymous said...

Hey Kari, Tony and Binbin - Just wanted to let you know that we are all thinking of you and hope that you had a great day! As I recall, today was your last full day in Nanning and tomorrow you fly to Guangzhou? We are anxious to hear about your remaining time in Nanning and how you are all doing. Our thoughts and prayers for peace and happiness are with you all. Love you - Kris

Anonymous said...

We are really enjoying your messages and pictures and we are thankful you are letting us in on this exciting and very personal part of your life. We are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. Pat and John Shook

Bonnie said...

Congratulations Kari and Toni! :-) Your daughter is lovely!! Hope you enjoy the rest of your time in China. Olivia "NiNi" is doing well; she is growing by leaps and bounds. Maybe our girls can play together!! Take care!
Bonnie and Olivia
Citrus Heights, CA